Do you want an anal toy? Not sure what to get?

You’re in luck.

I wrote this guide for you because my first anal-toy-buying experience sucked.

The options were totally overwhelming, and I spent days in decision paralysis…

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Your experience can be better!

The anal toys in this guide are amazing, high quality, and I love them each for different reasons.

They’re not cheap. I tried cheap, and I didn’t like it, so if you’re looking for cheap anal toys, this guide isn’t for you.

If you’re looking for some of the best feeling and highest quality anal toys out there, I invite you to scroll down…



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The Best Anal Toys for Men

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My 3 Favorite Anal Sex Toys for Men

(Tied for various reasons, in no particular order).

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Hands-Free, Vibrating Prostate Massager

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I love this toy because of how it feels inside my body. The size is perfect for me, the material is luxuriously smooth, the shape stimulates my prostate and it vibrates!! It also stays perfectly in place during dramatic body movements. I don’t worry about it falling out.

This anal toy is good for:

  • Lovemaking
  • Prostate Stimulation
  • Self Pleasure Sessions


  • Stays in place during body movement
  • Feels natural in my body
  • Sculpted base keeps the toy in the right position for prostate stimulation
  • Easily changeable AAA battery


  • You can’t sit on a hard surface if you want this toy to keep vibrating. This is because the power button for the toy is directly at the bottom and it’s exposed. If you’re on the shower floor, or a desk, or the kitchen counter, you’ll have to accept that you will turn off the vibrations.
  • Limited adjustments of the vibration style, and no adjustments of vibration intensity
  • The material seems to hold on to smells, even if washed with soap – (see: How to Clean your Anal Toys).

Best Prostate Toy for Men - The Best Anal Sex Toy for Men - Taylor Johnson-1Summary: This toy is my new favorite – in a tie with the other two toys below. I love how it stays snugly inside of me, and I love how the base of it feels on my perineum.

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Remote-Controlled Vibrating Butt Plug

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This toy is awesome, and the wireless remote control adds whole new realms of fun. For self pleasure sessions, I love how I can place this toy on a hard surface, and then slowly lower myself around it – it’ll stand straight up on it’s own.

This anal toy is good for:

  • Self-pleasure sessions
  • Playful experimentation with partner who has the remote
  • Solo exploration of
  • Lovemaking



  • Can sit on hard surfaces and use those surfaces for leverage in getting the most pleasurable positions.
  • The remote is awesome. Especially for self-pleasure sessions… it is really nice to not have to reach around to the bottom of the toy to adjust settings every time I want something different.
  • Variety of vibration settings. This toy has a number of preset vibration patterns that are amazing, and you can adjust the intensity of each pattern too. All adjustable via the remote


  • The material seems to hold on to smells, even if washed with soap. (to fix this, see – How to Clean Anal Toys)
  • The only other con for this toy is that if it’s in my partner’s anus, the base of this toy hits my cock when we have penetrative sex in a way that doesn’t feel great. It has a wide base.

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Summary: The vibrations, remote control and ability to stand straight up on its own make this plug one of my top three favorites. Highly recommended.

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Black Obsidian Prostate Massager

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I love this toy specifically for self-pleasuring sessions, and for self-massage of my prostate and anal regions. I have meditated with this toy inside me, focusing on expanding my root, and it has felt absolutely amazing.


This anal toy is good for:

  • Self-pleasure Sessions
  • Prostate Stimulation/Massage
  • Anal Massage & De-armoring



  • There’s something grounding and primal about this toy that no other material has given me. It literally is carved out of the earth – it’s black obsidian!
  • I can get great leverage & grip with my hand(s) to massage my anal region and prostate. Other toys are not as easy to control from the outside.
  • This toy works really well for de-armoring, which is a process for opening up deep internal blocks to pleasure and intimacy. I do this by massaging every part of my anus and internal cavity with this toy (blog post coming about this sometime this year).


  • This toy doesn’t stay fully inserted by itself. It will fall out. If you’re standing you’ll need to keep a hand on it at all times. That’s why I personally like to use this toy when I’m lying on my back, and/or if I’m sitting upright in meditation.

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Summary: This toy is my favorite for self-massage, and for prostate massage/stimulation. The angle and size is perfect. I love the grounding energy of black obsidian too. Highly recommended!

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The Best Beginner Butt Plug & Anal Toy for Men

If you want to start small, these are the two toys I recommend.

You’ll probably want to “upgrade” not too long after getting one of these, but that’s fine. Sex & life is a journey. (These toys are too small for me right now, but they would be a great place to start).


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Remote-Controlled Vibrating Butt Plug (Small)

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If you’re new to anal play, this toy could be a perfect one to start with. It’s essentially the same as the remote-controlled plug I listed above in my favorites, with two major differences:

  1. It’s smaller.
  2. It has less vibration power.


This anal toy is good for

  • people who are new to anal pleasure, who want to start small
  • self-pleasure sessions
  • people who want the added sensation of vibration
  • lovemaking
  • exploring anal pleasure with minimal impact

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Hands-Free Prostate Massager

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This is another great option for beginners. It’s small, about the size of a finger, and is a little less expensive than the vibrating plug above.

I got this toy after exploring anal stimulation for a while, so it never stimulated me enough (because of its small size). That being said, I do know men who started their journey with anal pleasure with this toy, and they loved it.

This anal toy is good for

  • people who are new to anal pleasure, who want to start small
  • self-pleasure sessions
  • lovemaking
  • exploring anal pleasure with minimal impact



  • Small, and aesthetically pleasing
  • The handles are easy to grab, and they keep this toy in place.


  • It seems fragile. When I had this inside of me, I was afraid to sit down even on my bed because I thought I might break the arms. I’m not sure if it actually would break, but I didn’t want to find out. This toy seems best for positions where you’re upright or laying on your back – but not sitting down.
  • This toy seems to hold onto smell too because of the material (silicone). [Jump to – How to clean your anal toys.]

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Black Obsidian Anal Toys

As practical as I am, I also believe that energy comes in various forms, and I love the form of black obsidian.

Black obsidian is grounding, rooting and powerful. I use these toys when I want to cultivate power in my life. Now before you write this off as too new-age, I invite you to read just a little bit further and approach this with an open mind.


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Black Obsidian Curved Prostate Wand

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Black Obsidian literally comes straight from the earth. Whether or not different stones have different qualities of “energy” doesn’t really matter… Just knowing that I have the earth inside of me creates a powerful effect.


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Black Obsidian Butt Plug

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I use these toys when I want to connect deeply to life. Sometimes I’ll self pleasure with these, and then sit in meditation with this plug in… focusing on my root. I’ll focus on areas of my life like stability, power, money, connection to the earth and more.

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If you’ve never tried meditating with a butt plug in, I highly recommend it. Please feel free to reach out and ask me any questions about it.



One more favorite:

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Stainless Steel Butt Plug

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I kept this one in my shower for a long time. One thing I love about this plug is the ability to do temperature play. It’s fun to run hot water over this to warm it up, and then insert it. The heat feels really, really good, and it has a nice weight to it too.

I also love the shape of this plug – the sensation of it going in and out feels awesome, and when it’s in, I have no worries about it falling out.

One thing I dislike about this plug is the handle. I can barely get one finger through the hole, which makes it awkward to hold. If they could come up with a more ergonomic handle I would be thrilled.




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How to Clean Your Anal Toys

I do a simple two-step process for cleaning my toys.

  1. Soap and water – specifically I use Dr. Bronners peppermint soap.
  2. Then I put my toys in my Ultraviolet Toy Cleaner.


This UV toy cleaner is the only thing I’ve tried that is able to fully get rid of butt smell from silicone toys. It works like a fucking charm. I use it all the time.

It comes in two different sizes. I have the smaller of the two, which is less expensive (it’s the one photographed here). They also make a larger version that can fit more and larger toys.

Pricing below:

  1. For the Larger Size, Click Here
  2. For the Smaller Size, Click Here

Both versions are great. If I didn’t already have the smaller one, I would get the larger one and keep most of my toys in it for cleaning and storage. (I can only fit 2-3 toys in the small one, as you can see here).

If you don’t want to buy something like this, you could buy some sort of toy cleaner out there – possibly an alcohol-based sanitizer spray. I prefer to keep it simple though – soap + water + light.

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When you’re ready to go into storage mode, it folds up and has an elegant look & feel to it.

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Which Lubricant Should You Use?

For the Black Obsidian and Metal toys, I love using Uberlube. This is actually my favorite lube in general. I love it for self pleasuring and vaginal sex too. It’s smooth, has a luxurious texture and it doesn’t have a taste or aroma! It leaves a wonderful moisturized after-feeling too. Love it love it love it. You can find some by clicking here.

For silicone sex toys, I personally love using organic coconut oil. If you want to use a water-based lubricant, Sliquid Organics feels awesome, but has that weird taste and smell that most water-based lubricants seem to have.

IMPORTANT: Do not use silicone lubricant with silicone sex toys. The Aneros and B-Vibe toys are made of silicone. You will damage these products if you use a silicone lube with them.


How to Have the Most Pleasure and Avoid Pain

This is a really sensitive area we’re talking about here. You can’t just jam stuff in there and expect things to feel good… it doesn’t work like that.

You have to start small, and go very, very slowly. I’m talking about a quarter of an inch per minute kind of slow at first. Breathe deeply, and practice squeezing and releasing your anus… FULLY releasing your anus.

Two other important points:

  1. If you have to poop, do that first, and then clean up.
  2. Cleanliness is crucial. Take a shower first and wash your ass. Seriously. Some people even recommend anal douching. I haven’t done that, and I haven’t found it necessary.

My next article is going to be a beginners guide on how to experience the most pleasure with anal play. I’ll share it with you in about a week.



I am not sponsored by any of these companies, nor did they contact me and ask me to write a review about their products. I personally reached out to them and asked if I could be an affiliate because I like their products so much. That means I’m not getting paid for writing this article.

That being said – IF you purchase a toy through one of the links below, a percentage of that sale will go towards supporting my work in creating a new world of sex positivity.

Photography on this page: I created all of the photographs in this article. If you would like to use one of them, please credit me with a link to this website. Thank you!


Thank you!

If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out.

If you have any suggestions or ideas, please leave them in a comment below. I’ll update this article every once in a while if I get a new favorite.

Thanks again! Hope you’re having an awesome day wherever you are.