Should you ejaculate? If you don’t, you should know these things…
The practice of not ejaculating during sex has changed every aspect of my life.
It can take your life to the next level.
The good stuff…
Right now I’m on day 24 of not having an ejaculation, and I’ve had plenty of sex during this time.
I feel awesome.
I am on point with my business, I am on point with my creative energy, I feel capable and powerful in ways that I just couldn’t if I was ejaculating regularly. AND I’m happy to report zero blue balls.
It’s not an easy practice, but it’s totally worth it. I’ve been doing this for years and it still challenges me.
Here are four important things I’ve learned that I want to pass on to you:
1. It takes serious conviction to do this practice.
You have to be steadfast in your commitment to not ejaculate. If you aren’t, the next time you have sex or masturbate you’ll likely to cave to your body’s urge to ejaculate.
It’s easy to think “I’ll just ejaculate this one more time…”
That kind of thinking can become cyclic though, and you’ll never make it past dat 4 or 5.
If you want to try this practice, I recommend journaling about it. Get really clear on your “why.” Make a solid commitment to yourself and stand by your commitment.
Have you ever heard that saying “how you do one thing is likely how you do everything” ?
2. You will build a lot of energy, and what you do with this energy will make or break you.
After 4 to 5 days of not ejaculating, you’ll probably feel different. You might feel energized, more clear, more powerful… or you might feel stagnant. Either way, you will likely have heightened sensations in your body, mind and spirit.
After 7-10 days, this intensifies.
You can go down one of two paths…
- You can harness this energy with intention and integrate it into your body
- Or you can do nothing and the energy will stagnate.
If you are not intentional with your charged sexual energy, you’ll probably become irritable, uncomfortable in your body, and limited in your ability to focus.
What to do with this excess energy?
- Physical exercise is a great way to release & discharge this energy
- Yoga, Qigong and/or Meditation are great ways to circulate and integrate this energy. You can also bring the principles from these practices into physical exercise with great results.
3. Communicate with your partner!
If you’re going to try not ejaculating during sex, it’s really important to communicate this to your partner. I’d bet good money that most women haven’t had sex with a man who chooses to do this.
If you don’t communicate with your partner, they might wonder if something is wrong when you don’t ejaculate. They might worry that something is wrong with them.
Many people see ejaculation as the pinnacle of pleasure for men… and many women don’t feel like they have fully satisfied their man if he doesn’t ejaculate.
There is another way…
Communicate with your partner your “why” for doing this practice, and be sure to share how this practice will benefit your connection. If you want to read some of those benefits, check out this article: What is Beyond Ejaculation?
4. It’s important to integrate your energy immediately after sex.
If you have sex without ejaculating, and you don’t integrate your sexual energy, you might get blue balls. Blue balls a real phenomenon that can cause physical pain, psychological symptoms and general unease.
If you don’t integrate your energy after sex, you’ll likely feel sexually frustrated, and it’s possible that some part of you (maybe subconscious) will blame your partner for not “getting you off.” If you have this reaction, you’re not a bad person. Society has programmed us with fucked up ideas about sex and intimacy, and those programs run deep within us.
If you do integrate your sexual energy, you’ll likely feel more powerful, more confident, full of clarity, and more capable in every area of your life.
Sexual Energy Integration Exercise
In the video below I’ve included a demonstration of my favorite exercise to do immediately after sex.
This exercise starts at 04:19 in the video if you want to skip the beginning content.
Take your sex life to the next level!
Do you want to dive deeper into this practice? Would you like to:
- Last as long as you want in bed
- Have orgasms without ejaculation
- Build and integrate your sexual energy, and put it into anything you want
- Communicate your true desires with your partner in a way that will go over well
- Turn your fantasies into reality
In a few months my Orgasm & Ejaculation training for men will be available. It’ll show you how to do everything I just listed, and much much more.
If you have any questions, please feel free to reach out and ask me. You can also leave a comment below if you think other people will benefit from your question.
Thank you for being here!