True story.

I just went 30 days without ejaculating, and it literally improved every aspect of my life.

I regularly had sex and masturbated and during this time, and I didn’t get blue balls once. (I didn’t watch any porn either).

If you want to go straight to the video about this, click here.

Here’s my story:


 

Sex Without Ejaculation for 30 Days

 

Days 1, 2 and 3

Ejaculation hangover.

During these days I experienced lower sexual desire, lower passion, less clarity and zest for life in general.

I was more irritable than usual, more distractable, and less confident.

I didn’t have sex during these days. Right now I’m in a long-term relationship, and if I ejaculate during sex with my partner, I usually don’t want sex for a few days. I usually find my partner less attractive during this time too.

 

Days 4 & 5

Energy levels normalized, and my sexual desire came back.

The fog of ejaculation hangover lifted from my mind, and I felt a resurgence of drive and passion.

When I had sex during this time I didn’t have to focus on retaining my semen because the “pressure to ejaculate” hadn’t built up yet.

 

Days 8, 9 & 10

First major benefits & first major challenges.

I experienced a massive upgrade in my life clarity/vision during this time. It felt amazing.

A lot of energy had built up inside me, and I had to do something with it. Yoga, qigong, meditation and physical exercise were absolutely necessary to thrive during this time. Otherwise my excess energy would have stagnated, and that stagnation would have likely turned into frustration and anger. Possibly even feelings of sadness and despair.

Sex was more challenging because my body had a strong urge to ejaculate. I had to be on point with my energetic circulation practice, and I had to ask my partner to pause a handful of times during sex so I wouldn’t go over the edge.

The risk for blue balls increased too because there was so much energy… By the way, blue balls actually hurts, and it can come with a bunch of psychological symptoms as well.

Every time I had sex I immediately followed up with exercises to avoid blue balls, and I’m happy to say that I didn’t experience blue balls once during these 30 days.

In the video at the bottom of this page, I share my favorite exercise to do immediately after sex to integrate my sexual energy. I highly recommend checking this out. 

 

Days 14 & 15

Everything intensified.

I had more energy, more clarity, and more drive. My physical urge to ejaculate was even more intense too.

When I self-pleasured I had to be careful to not come close to the point of no return (ejaculation point). It would have been way too easy for me to go over that edge.

At some points the build up of energy in my system was too much, and I wasn’t able to integrate it with qigong or meditation. The energy had to be released somehow, but ejaculation wasn’t an option. The only thing that worked for me was intense physical exercise (going on an intense run and/or lifting weights at the gym).

 

Day 18, 19 & 20

The BIG WIN happened!

I experienced a fundamental shift in my life purpose.

Somehow the combination of not ejaculating while being intentional with my energy created a scenario in which my life purpose became more clear, and it integrated into my body in a way I had never experienced before. It felt amazing.

I literally felt my life purpose in my body as physical sensation.

It was like an internal compass that guided me through every moment of my day. It steered me away from situations that would have drained my energy, and towards situations that supported my life vision. This wasn’t an intellectual thing, I felt this in my body.

Interestingly, I received a huge job opportunity during this time that would have netted somewhere around $10,000 (I’m a professional photographer & filmmaker during the day). Long story short, I didn’t take the job because it didn’t feel aligned with my purpose, passion and mission. If I had not been retaining my semen during this time, I would almost certainly have taken this job out of scarcity mindset.

Turning down this job was a pivotal life moment for me… a turning point in my life. I created a separate video about the experience, and if you’re curious, you can click here to watch it.

Another amazing thing that happened during these days was that I experienced a major shift in how my system dealt with the excess energy I had from not ejaculating. Instead of feeling like there was too much energy in my system, the extra energy naturally integrated into my body, mind and spirit. It brought me increased power, clarity, confidence, creativity and drive. It was like getting a powerup in a video game.

 

Day 30

Literally everything in my life was better.

I experienced deep ease, peacefulness, vibrance, clarity, power, purpose, integrity, connection and presence in levels I haven’t experienced before.

I felt alive in a new way, and it was fucking incredible.

From day 20 to day 30, I didn’t have to work hard to not ejaculate during sex because the extra energy had integrated into my body in a natural way that felt amazing. And because I was more comfortable with the experience of pleasure and orgasm not being associated with ejaculation.ejaculation-video than having an ejaculation during sex.

 

Day 32

I ejaculated.

The 10 seconds of spasmatic pleasure were nice, but honestly they weren’t as good as the entire past month. That experience also put me right back into Ejaculation Hangover.

To be clear, I do enjoy ejaculations. They’re incredibly hot, fun, and let’s be real, there’s nothing quite like cumming inside your partner. There’s also nothing quite like the experience of having sex and not ejaculating. Both are incredible.

Post-Ejaculation Note from Day 32 (written one hour after ejaculating): After ejaculating I’m feeling a sense of ease, satisfaction and release in my body, mind and spirit. I can also tell that my ability to direct my creative energy into writing is not as refined as it was before… but that’s okay. I am a go go go person, and experiencing this release and ease every once in a while is good for me.

I can also tell that my energy isn’t going to drop as much as it would have if I were ejaculating more frequently.

 

My Takeaways:

Before this 30-day period I ejaculated roughly every 7-10 days. Now because of this experience, my ejaculation frequency is going to change. Ejaculating once every 14-21 days feels more appropriate right now. That’s the timeframe in which I experienced the most benefits of this practice.

These 30 days changed my life. I HIGHLY recommend trying this if you have a cock. If you don’t, and you know someone who has a cock who you think would benefit from this practice, please feel free to forward this article and/or the below video to them. I’m happy to be a resource if I can be.

 


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Hope you are having an amazing now!

-Taylor