** If you haven’t read my article “What is Blue Balls,” I’d recommend reading that first so you have an idea of what we’re working with here. This guide will be helpful either way. Knowledge is power.
*** While this article is written for people who have cocks, I have learned that people with vulvas can also experience symptoms associated with “Blue Balls.” Many of the actions below will be helpful for you too.
How to Prevent Blue Balls:
Actions to take DURING a sexual encounter:
Action 1: Breathe deeply and intentionally. Breathe into your belly. Breathe down into your balls.
Action 2: Focus on feeling sexual pleasure throughout your ENTIRE body, not just in your genitals.
Action 3: Shift your focus away from thoughts or expectations of ejaculation. This is huge. Your mind is fucking powerful.
Action 4: Visualize and imagine your sexual pleasure (and sexual energy) spreading from your cock throughout your entire body.
You might be happy to know that these same steps also help with learning how to last longer in bed. These steps can help to prevent Blue Balls even if you have sex for an hour and don’t ejaculate!!
Actions you can take IMMEDIATELY AFTER a sexual encounter:
Action 1: Massage and squeeze your balls firmly (not hard enough to cause pain). Remember that blue balls comes from physical fluid buildup… massaging can help move things that are stuck.
Action 2: Take a deep breath in while squeezing your balls, and imagine the sensations you feel in your balls and cock moving up into your entire body – integrating with your entire body. Remember, your mind is powerful.
Action 3: Do qigong or yoga, or some form of semi-challenging mindful movement.
Action 4: Do 20 pushups. I’m not joking.
Action 5: Do 30 jumping jacks. Again, I’m not joking.
Now let’s time travel a little bit… If you know you’re about to have a sexual encounter, and you have a little bit of time to prepare, here’s what I’d recommend:
Actions to take BEFORE a sexual encounter:
Action 1: Stretch your legs and lower body, and breathe deeply while you stretch.
Action 2: Massage and cup your balls, bringing more life and vitality into them before sex.
Action 3: Do some sort of mindful somatic practice like Yoga or Qigong. In the next couple weeks I’ll share a video of my favorite poses for sexual health.
It is possible to have sex for hours and have multiple orgasms without ejaculating, while also not getting blue balls.
I’m not joking. It’s amazing. Having sex for hours without ejaculating, PAIRED with the appropriate techniques to integrate your experience can add more energy and pleasure to every aspect of your life.
I’m here to tell you from personal experience, and from the experiences of other men that this is possible. You can walk away from a sexual encounter without ejaculating and feel like this:
Please let me know if you have any questions on how to prevent blue balls, and/or if you try any of these techniques. I would love to hear from you.